karyn: letting go

[carlyinrome]

My dad got to New York to find my aunt hadn't been moved to hospice yet, even though her condition had not improved. My uncle (her husband) told hospital staff not to move her, to keep pushing fluids and steroids to get her going again, even though she's clearly not going anywhere ever again. He just agreed today to let them put her on morphine. Somehow he took the doctors' reports as more of a forecast, not a status report. He said he thought he had at least another three or four months with her. My dad is coming home tomorrow; my aunt is still technically alive, but she's already gone. She couldn't speak at all; my dad didn't even think she understood he was there. He said that he's seen her for the last time.